Wandalynn's views

It has come with great power to realize and understanding that our children need to be children and not assume roles of caregivers for adults. By not allowing our children to be themselves; be judged for it and given roles of adults can and does disrupt the very people they will become. It is wonderful to have a loving and sensitive child... However these sensitive children when used as a caregiver for the vulnerable adults and or looking after their parents and other sibling needs and not their own make these children people pleasers and vulnerable to abuse and neglect from others. It may turn their souls beautiful and kind, destroy their sense of self and not give them the right or best way to cope with taking care of themselves first. It's okay to teach children responsibility at appropriate times.  Children need to be able to make important decisions about their life so to be guided and see things done by a responsible adult will teach by example and if you get the child t...

I have realized my value; I will sometimes fall... But there is a reason. That being said, nothing is the same after you realize you are living in a world where some people push those nasty buttons in which they have no business doing. Finally I can rest a little easier to realize that if someone doesn't respect me I do not need to give respect back, do not have to be the perfect girl or person. I accept the negative aspects of me as they are a part of me; Those who bring out the shadow side of me... it is for a reason, not for some imagined wrong! Each day I love myself more and more, with the peace of mind to know I was brainwashed into believing I was no good, worthless and a horrible person with no future. They are wrong! I am worth every bit as much as the next person and I don't have to feel insecure and doubtful about myself... THEY were wrong and I am so happy to finally be seeing my true value!!! I just like everyone deserves respect, love and to live. Don't...

Inside myself... I find comfort. I enjoy the inner calm and stillness. It feels like nothing else. Peaceful and serene; I think it is the best feeling in the word. The only path to self discovery is through you. Time is all it takes, and a willingness to embrace your whole self and do the work necessary to make yourself well. No one can take that from you. It was just a few days for me to realize what needed to be fixed and to set goals to achieve the peace within me and take steps to ensure my self worth isn't shattered again. Trust and respect are earned and I am not wiling to take anything less. Healthy boundaries and I know I love myself enough to make it work... for me... no one else. I am not going to rush the process. I am worth the time it takes to decide what I need, want and deserve. Once the process of self acceptance is achieved, nothing will stop me. This doesn't mean I forget what the cause was, however I can forgive. I had to do that so many times... t...

I am here today to tell my story and to let people know that people not everyone but some of us are not well, if you don't know what others are going through in their lives you might want to just try to see Humans as people first, someone's daughter or son, sibling among st other things before objects. My life story started as a baby... no shit right. I was abused from the earliest possible age, not only physically, emotionally, mentally also sexually. My life was in danger on more than one occasion,  with my step dad and others. I was sexually abused by 6 different family members. One in which lasted from age 7 to 14. Instead of going to a safe place I was placed into a sexually abusive situation. As I grew up I had only two people in my life who showed me real love. I went to my first marriage which was physically abusive, emotionally abusive and emotional abandonment; In a sense I was abandoned right from birth. That relationship lasted roughly 7 years. My second relati...

Positive Communication: 10 Things To Say To Someone With A Mental Illness : Photo by Alexandre Dulaunoy Last week we discussed the worst things to ever say to someone with a mental illness. Many readers commented on what their personal experiences have been and how someone’s words  tore them apart, confused them, hurt...