Letting our children be children...
It has come with great power to realize and understanding that our children need to be children and not assume roles of caregivers for adults. By not allowing our children to be themselves; be judged for it and given roles of adults can and does disrupt the very people they will become.
It is wonderful to have a loving and sensitive child... However these sensitive children when used as a caregiver for the vulnerable adults and or looking after their parents and other sibling needs and not their own make these children people pleasers and vulnerable to abuse and neglect from others.
It may turn their souls beautiful and kind, destroy their sense of self and not give them the right or best way to cope with taking care of themselves first. It's okay to teach children responsibility at appropriate times. Children need to be able to make important decisions about their life so to be guided and see things done by a responsible adult will teach by example and if you get the child to help instead of taking over adult responsibilities.
All of us would agree we want what's best for our children so striking a balance between a child slave and a child that is coddled is so important for a balanced adult. That poem Children learn what they live is the poem that struck me as such an eye opener.
If your child is an introvert don't try to force extroversion... The more that is learned and implemented by loving and nurturing parents the better off the child. Life is a challenge for the healthiest of people so a child needs the best chance at a good life.
Now there are instances where children have to help more than they should and in that case the child has to be well supported and given some extra attention and love. Be able to mingle with kids their own age and learn about the world. If they don't learn about people and the world they will become (more likely than not) someone who is afraid of the world... they need to know the way the world works from a young age and get to know how to deal with others.
The world will heal with healthy children to take the reins Love them, Nurture them, Support them, do things with them, don't use electronics for a babysitter, balance between getting the child to help and knowing when it's too much for a child. We are all doing the best we can... at any given point in our lives... lets give our kids their best chance at a better life and a healthier world :)
With Love Wandalynn
It is wonderful to have a loving and sensitive child... However these sensitive children when used as a caregiver for the vulnerable adults and or looking after their parents and other sibling needs and not their own make these children people pleasers and vulnerable to abuse and neglect from others.
It may turn their souls beautiful and kind, destroy their sense of self and not give them the right or best way to cope with taking care of themselves first. It's okay to teach children responsibility at appropriate times. Children need to be able to make important decisions about their life so to be guided and see things done by a responsible adult will teach by example and if you get the child to help instead of taking over adult responsibilities.
All of us would agree we want what's best for our children so striking a balance between a child slave and a child that is coddled is so important for a balanced adult. That poem Children learn what they live is the poem that struck me as such an eye opener.
If your child is an introvert don't try to force extroversion... The more that is learned and implemented by loving and nurturing parents the better off the child. Life is a challenge for the healthiest of people so a child needs the best chance at a good life.
Now there are instances where children have to help more than they should and in that case the child has to be well supported and given some extra attention and love. Be able to mingle with kids their own age and learn about the world. If they don't learn about people and the world they will become (more likely than not) someone who is afraid of the world... they need to know the way the world works from a young age and get to know how to deal with others.
The world will heal with healthy children to take the reins Love them, Nurture them, Support them, do things with them, don't use electronics for a babysitter, balance between getting the child to help and knowing when it's too much for a child. We are all doing the best we can... at any given point in our lives... lets give our kids their best chance at a better life and a healthier world :)
With Love Wandalynn
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