Shackled by guilt

When a person is shackled by guilt, you are at a stand still. You need to be able say no and not feel guilty about it. Your own needs and wants are more important than anything else. If you can't say no you are what we call a door mat.

There are many of us out there who are super nice people and are not used to saying no, in which case by saying no often brought us manipulation and or making people pissed off because they are used to us saying JUMP... How high??

My feelings of guilt stem from being controlled by others and for acceptance, well for my own health I had to break free of this cycle. MIND you I am still a loving, caring and empathic person but I had to start to learn that it's OK to say no.

I would never get time for myself, and peace or respect if I always said yes, the worlds problems are not my own to bare. I have been through a lot never really got the chance to be myself because I was always looking out for someone Else's best interests.. be it a friend or foe, nothing was for me.

I would love to share this poem with you... Not because I follow God but because it's has a lot of truth...



Priorities

By Mother Theresa

People are often unreasonable, Illogical, and Self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind,
People may accuse you of selfish,ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends
and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank,people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they will be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Be good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it's between you and God (Goddess and God);
It was never between you and them anyway.

This was written and engraved (without Goddess and God), on the wall of her home for the children in Calcutta.

Love and Light as always

Amber

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